Separation Anxiety Anyone?

“The increased level of attention and time given by parents working from home feels really good; this has become their new norm, establishing an expectation that this is how things will be all the time,” says Dr. Rebecca Rialon Berry, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist at the Child Study Center at Hassenfeld Children’s Hospital at NYU Langone Health

We've been experiencing separation anxiety with Roman for... well... years, to be honest. Ever since the "peak" of separation anxiety reared it's ugly screaming crying head at around 10-months or so, it's been a "traumatic" and I say that somewhat lightly, experience for all parties involved.

Roman around 8-weeks-old... This was after getting his tongue and lip tie fixed.

Home is Where The Tears are...

Leaving your child is truly never easy, for you or them, but it's a necessity. We can't stay home all day everyday forever. I was fortunate enough that my work schedule when I went back after maternity with Roman, allowed me to get home around 9:30am and be home with him all day. I would nap when he napped, and get up when he was up. We were together, all. the. time. Which as a new mom, was great, but now, it's causing some separation issues.

Leaving, has become a chore. The simple task of opening the closet where are coats hang, causes a flood of tears and tantrums.

I tell him over and over, "It's okay. Mommy is coming back. Mommy will ALWAYS come back." And while in my head I feel better reassuring him, I never really know if he feels better.

Do you have any advice or are you seeing the same thing in your pandemic baby/toddler?

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